Why Long Engagements Are Often Overrated

Written By Yasmin Clappison

When you first get engaged, you will undoubtedly be asked time and time again, “So… when’s the wedding?”

Many couples either say, we don’t know yet or answer with a date far into the future.

From 2018 - 2023 many couples were opting for an engagement period of between 15 months to 2 years.

After all, more time must mean less stress… right?

Nope, Not necessarily!

I often see the opposite.

More Time Does Not Always Mean Less Stress

It is easy to assume that spreading decisions over a period of 2 years will make planning feel calmer.

In reality, extended timelines often lead to decision fatigue for many.

When too much space exists between choices, couples tend to:

    • Revisit decisions they had already, confidently made

    • Question whether their selections are still “on trend”

    • Lose clarity around what they actually want and need

Life Rarely Stays Still for Two Years

The longer couples wait, the greater the likelihood that something significant changes in their life.

This could include things such as:

    • Career changes

    • House moves

    • Financial adjustments

    • Friendship dynamics Or

    • Starting a family

Prices Rarely (IF EVER) drop

One of the biggest misconceptions is having a long engagement saves money.

However in most industries costs rise year on year due to inflation, wage increases, food pricing, and sustained supplier demand.

Securing a date early can lock in current rates whilst longer engagements often tempt couples into continued browsing, upgrading and adding on!

Too Much Time Encourages Over-Planning

When couples feel they have lots of time, they often begin adding elements that were never truly important:

    • Additional décor

    • Complex signage

    • Extra events to attend

    • Multiple outfit changes

    • Trend-led details that may date quickly

Yet guests mostly remember;

    • How happy you were on the day

    • The Atmosphere

    • Exceptional food

    • A full dance floor

    • A day that flows with minimal lulls

I recommend couples get Engaged, start planning and then marry! And many couples are doing just that with a rise in couples in 2025 and 2026 getting engaged and married within the year.

When a Longer Engagement Is Actually Strategic

A longer engagement may serve you well if:

• You have your heart set on a high-demand venue

• You want extended time to save comfortably

• You are planning a multi-day or destination celebration

• Your guest list requires significant travel coordination

• Cultural or family logistics are more complex

I recommend doing what feels right to you, if your personal life is super busy, hire a planner from the off, choose a wedding date that means something to you and pick styling and suppliers who you genuinely connect with.

With love & support,

From Yes 2 I Do

Yasmin Clappison
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